Not feeling good... After reading cheng & kiong's blog, felt that they are brave and good in expressing their feelings & emotions. I think i just hardly do that. Not I feel shy but is that i do not wish to expose my weaknesses in front of so many eyes. There is something i need to keep in my heart and not to share with anyone even i hope i can share with u guys. Everyone have their own secret. Sometimes, what u witness is actually part of the truth. Nevertheless, is it good for you to witness the complete and real truth? Hmm...mayb i need some time to get myself away from the negative emotions.
Forgiveness, needs tolerance and a large-minded. Not everyone can have such broad-minded. I even think that forgive is a degree of knowledge. Looking back from what I had been through, i learned the meaning of forgiveness. “ 原谅并不是形式上的不责怪不怨恨，而是需要更多的豁达与包容。” Try to view from another perspective, there'll be smth different. There is no saint in the world but there have a people with great minded and magnanimous who can just let go the unfairness and sadness.
This few days, i didn't go for classes, just 2 classes only, not so much so please stop imagine. Moody. Something wrong with me. I need chocolate to let myself feel happier. My brain keep repeating the same "issue" in my mind. Time, what i need is time. I need time to purify my mind. Hope that it is a brand new day when i awake tomorrow.
3 comments:
Empathy promotes forgiveness. Apology leads to empathy and lastly results in forgiveness. In other words, only when u feel empathetic to someone, u can actually forgive him/her.
On the other hand, rumination hinder forgiveness. the more u brood, the higher levels of revenge and avoidance.The more u avoid the issue or the person, the more u get bothered by all these. Avoidance is not an indicator to show that u aready forgive others.
Take your time. Time really does heal wounds =)
i forgived some 1 but i do not feel emphathetic to her/him. it is jus the time passed and i m able to let thing goes. time is the best medicine.
for good frens, forgiveness is easier to be applied compare to other frens. u might have more tolerance, u ll jus forgive because of forgive... sometimes,rumination cannot be avoided, dont u think so? haha
In psychology perspective, rumination is simply negative. It involves negaitive cyclic thinking, persistent and recurrent worrying. Thinking of the event is inevitable. bt wat u can do is keep urself off ruminating the -ve feelings u experienced in the event. take it easy friend...
'for good frens, forgiveness is easier to be applied compare to other frens' to me, i would say it's not always the case. Ur expectation normally goes higher with the degree of closeness. if it's a close relationship, u ll take eryting into granted, u ll think that one should understand u, the situation and eryting. so when things goes in opposite direction, u ll feel extremely upset n disappointed, simply because u care the person a lot.
Post a Comment